Help My Wife Is Going Through Menopause And Feels Really Bad About It?
October 6, 2009 by Ann-Britt
Filed under Menopause News & Articles, Menopause Symptoms
She just found out last week that she is going through menopause. she feels really bad about it because she feels extremely old now she’s only 46. she has been crying all day. she keeps telling me that she is getting gray hair, she is getting old and that i won’t love her anymore. all of a sudden she wants to have a baby i don’t know what is up with that. she won’t come out of the room, she won’t put any make up on and she doesn’t want to talk to anyone. what do i do?
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I would like to tell you that this is completly normal for a woman to be going through during menopause...it's as if ALL of her emotions during her menstrual cycle's are comming in a combining into ONE HUGE EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS, your wife is having normal feelings though, most woman if not ALL woman go through this at this time.
It will pass believe it or not, just give her some time what you can do is help her understand that she is still the woman that you love, some i suggest buying so roses for her, making her favorite food, asking about her day, saying that she is beautiful every morning and every night, say that you love her constantly.....
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Also make her understand that she is NOT less of a woman because of this, make her feel like a strong woman, beautiful, and wonderful woman. Take care of her but step back at the same time, call her sexy, spice up your sex life, make her feel at her best, because woman at this time believe that their "life is over" because they are old and there is nothing left to do now but wait and die. Show her to enjoy life! =]
You are the hubby and you have a job to do =] Make your wife the queen of the world, show her she is the only one that matters, good luck! it won’t last forever, just be there for her, it is a LOT of work and it may not be fair, but like I said it won’t last forever just make her feel special it will mean so much to her…..good luck and it’s wonderful that you care so much about her, you must love her so much.
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First, understand she’s scared. She said she was worried that you wouldn’t love her anymore and she’s wanting another baby to try to hold onto what was comfortable and to try to hold onto with that baby she wants to have with you. Her fear of getting older, losing you, and not having the ability to have children anymore is causing her fear and sadness to have hit a marker that basically says she’s just getting older and not young anymore. Women pride themselves with youthful beauty to secure the men in their lives, so that also explains her fear.
But know she wants to try to have a baby because she thinks it’ll postpone her aging.
She also feels alone which increases her fear. Going through menopause, in her surroundings, she feels like she’s the only one suffering the aging process and she’s creating a downward spiral for herself, hindering to her ‘emotional recovery’.
What you need to do is replace her tension and focus from her fear and help her feel comforted that you won’t leave her, she isn’t the only one to go through menopause, and she will always be beautiful to you. Act like you two were when you were first married; party around the house, do little things like the dishes for her to make her smile. Make sure she feels special.
I don’t know much about menopause, but I’m assuming it’s a little late for the whole baby thing, but if that’s a path open for the two of you, adopt or foster a child. Having children running around the house might make her feel a little less lonely if it’s only the two of you right now. If you have other children who’ve grown, have them come visit and make sure they’re on their best behavior.
The best thing is to just be there for her as she’s crying and sad. Be the shoulder she cries on and don’t be constantly glancing at a clock or anything. Give her your undivided attention, but don’t be offering to do all sorts of things as she’s just crying in your arms.
She also might be feeling helpless, so don’t make her out to be a doll of glass or anything fagile. Let her just know you’ll always be there for her, and you’ll always love her. Be the sleeve she wipes her eyes on and be the firm foundation of love and hope she needs.
She shouldn’t need to wear make-up, because I’m sure she’s beautiful, but if she doesn’t want to talk, I stress this, just be there and hold her comfortingly. Rock back and forth gently and rub her back and arms softly. Kiss her cheek tenderly and just show her you will love her no matter what. If you have parents who are still together through young age to old age, you might remind her that your parents went through the same thing and look at them, still together and loving each other.
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Good luck!